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When you are shy, you experience everything from butterflies to extreme forms of nervousness and anxiety, such as headaches, nausea and perspiration. While shyness can be debilitating in many social situations, trying to talk to a guy you like can be like trying to give a speech in front of thousands of people. In fact, your mind and your body may kick into "fight or flight" mode and urge you to escape as soon as possible. But if you flee, you may miss the chance to get to know someone you may actually like and enjoy having in your life. Shyness can seem overwhelming, but you do not have to allow it to determine How to talk to men when you are shy choices in social situations.
Even small steps can help you to connect relationally with other people. Focus your attention on him. Work on putting him at ease and learning more about him rather than on calming your own nerves. Gary Chapman, in "The Five Love Languages for Singles," stresses that even though shyness can be detrimental in interpersonal relationships, you can make small steps toward growth and change.
Ask respectful questions about his interests and pursuits, seeking to keep your questions open-ended and to make appropriate eye contact to show him that you are listening. Open-ended questions cannot be answered with a "yes" or "no" and invites the other person to share more about himself and his thoughts, feelings and experiences. Introduce topics in which you both share common interest or experiences, such as attending the same school or enjoying the same type of music. Encourage the other person to share his ideas and reflections on the topic, and then seek to share at least one thought or feeling of your own in return.
If helpful, take time beforehand to consider and to practice what you might say. Look for opportunities to share in an activity together, such as taking a hike, playing racquetball or serving in a local food pantry. Finding ways to work or play together may help both of you to begin to connect.
Be honest about your shyness with the guy that you like. Judith Kuriansky, in "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating," explains that when you confess to someone that you are shy, then that person will not misread you. His response to your admission of shyness will also help you to know whether you really want to know him better. Christine Switzer has been a freelance writer since She contributes to travel and regional periodicals such as "Georgetown View" and "Burlington the Beautiful" and she enjoys writing on travel, lifestyle and the workplace.
Switzer holds a Bachelor of Arts in journalism and a Master of Arts in English and has taught university courses in communication, public speaking and journalism. By: Christine Switzer. How to Cope with Competitive People. How to Deal With Feelings of Rejection How to Deal With a Neurotic Person.
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How to Talk to a Guy You Like When You're Shy