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Anger is a natural and normal human emotion that tends to make its presence known in any relationship, even if it is not addressed at the person to whom it is being expressed. Unfortunately, anger often rears its head in our interactions with those we love the most, including our romantic partners. Managing anger and managing your response to an angry partner is a useful skill that can promote intimacy and maturity in any romantic relationship.
As a therapist, I often challenge my clients to think about how their reactivity in a relationship gets in the way of who they want to be as a partner. So often we shut down, complain to friends, or try and control our partner as a response to our anger. While these strategies may feel relieve us in the moment, they are rarely effective in the long-term.
When a person is fighting with their ificant others, sometimes they may feel the urge to slam a door and give them the silent treatment.
Instead of quickly zooming out of the driveway or walking away, consider telling your partner that you need some time to calm down so you can organize your thinking. Trying to coerce or threaten them into a quick reconciliation is likely to backfire and cause them to cutoff even more.
When someone we love is angry with us, often we feel compelled to appease and soothe them as quickly as possible. Being calm is much more effective than trying to calm someone else, and people who can stay focused on managing their own anxiety and reactions give the other person the space to do the same. Take one of our 2-minute mental health quizzes to see if you may benefit from further diagnosis and treatment.
Immaturity begets immaturity so often in relationships. When we use a third person to manage our stress about another, this is often called an emotional triangle. Wanting to vent is completely human and it is not wrong.
As individuals, there are certain topics which are likely to ignite an angry reaction or an anxious reaction that can lead to conflict. Often these are topics like money, politics, religion, sex, parenting, or family drama. So rather than getting hung up on resolving conflict as quickly as possible, shift your focus back to responding as maturely as you possibly can.
Maturity simply looks like being willing to not let your emotions totally run the show. Article continues below Concerned about stress and anxiety? You may also like: What Is Kambo Therapy?Ways to control anger in a relationship
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