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Or it can be magical like my dating experiences in before I met the love of my life. If things keep going sour or if you never make it to date two or three, I personally know it can be exhausting to think about. You can spend an insane amount of time questioning your girlfriends or your guy friends for that matter and analyzing the crap out of each situation: what does this mean when he did this or when he did that?
It can literally send you around the bend —if you know what I mean.
Dating cannot be magicaldating cannot be fun and dating cannot be fulfillingif you approach dating with a jaded perception. When you change and flip the perception like I did and look at it as a real true opportunity to discover who you are romantically. Otherwise those doors remain closed. But again, this is the difference between a meh love life and magical love life. I mean, there are great stories out there. Lots of comedians put together great acts based on dating gone wrong. We like to point out the hilarity in all these different dating situations.
But there is a balance that has to be maintained because you can slide into the habit of finding everything wrong with men all the time. Something that I say frequently: the more good you find in men, the more good men you will find. There are so many incredible men out there who want the opportunity to love, adore and cherish you. The second troubleshooting part is your approach. Now a lot of times your approach works in tandem with your perception.
But sometimes your perception can be good and your approach still needs tweaking because underneath the perception are some beliefs that are holding you back. But let me talk specifically about the approach first. And women take this the wrong way all the time. Women are really good about cutting off all of their other options in men because they really like a guy.
Which is more about not having to use a condom more so than anything else. You are worth exploring your options. I see women do this quite a bit. Very few women are actually immune to this. This is where What am i doing wrong dating will do something that they would not normally do just because they are afraid that the guy that they really like is going to focus his attention on another woman.
I understand this because I used to do things like this too. When I say sex too soon, I mean sex too soon for her. These things can really screw your chances in dating. Because he is going to sense that. He is going to feel the neediness off that. What I urge you to do in order to tweak that type of approach to dating is to get in touch with what feels right to you. One of the exercises that we do which is quite fun in my program that I created called the Courage Kit. We do a whole revamp on who we are —looking at our romantic archetype and how to bring and how to bring that romantic archetype into our life.
So this is one of those opportunities that you can do as well. I do also urge you again to look at that sexual time frame. He is not a real man. The third piece of approach is when a woman never tweaks her approach. Doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result. Let me give you a little example of this:. Inas my then-husband and I were splitting up and getting a divorce, I decided that what I have been doing romantically was not working and it was time to everything differently.
For instance I always become exclusive in my head and would cut off all my options before actually having relationship exclusivity with a man. Because we women have the right to explore our options. We women have the right to explore our romantic life in any way we want so long as we are not out of integrity with ourselves or are seriously hurting somebody else. It is more about the vibe that you get off.
I recommend you learning and you can do that through my program E-rresistibility. Now the third area that you need to look at when you are troubleshooting you love life would be your willingness to be vulnerable and maintain good boundaries.
That would be your willingness to be vulnerable and maintain good boundaries which weaves in with part one and part two but it can also be in a separate category of its own. So one thing I want to make very very clear: vulnerability is sexy. Vulnerability is very sexy. Men, when you ask them in a behind the scenes —when they can be honest and genuine about their answers, are fascinated by women. I mean our softness, our vulnerability is alluring.
Our vulnerability can trigger their instinct to protect us. This is a brilliant dynamic for romance and long term relationships. It has to be used appropriately and appropriate is when good boundaries are in place. Good boundaries not only for you, but good boundaries that protect him as well. I can talk about boundaries for ages because boundaries are one of my specialties, but that is an more extensive talk for another episode. Back to your willingness to be vulnerable and maintain good boundaries. Understand right now, vulnerability is sexy.
With that said, I want you to understand that that might work well in your career, but it is totally absurd in your love life. When you have to maintain that kind of control over your love life, you lose the magic of allowing your romantic life to unfold. So being romantically vulnerable, I know can be excruciating for smart, successful, single women. Without it, there are always be a ceiling to what you have romantically.
We talked about income ceiling in our careers. This is a romantic capacity ceiling that you will have, unless you allow yourself to be vulnerable. Let me clarify that I am not talking about the kind of vulnerability where you are having to walk into a first date, and vomit your entire past all over him. It will not accelerate your love life ever. I know because I used to do that. I used to vomit all over guys emotionally when we started dating. I am talking about allowing yourself not only to have your love life unveiled to you but unveiling yourself to a man.
So being a bit romantically What am i doing wrong dating here and giving him time during the dating phase to start earning your trust. Your romantic trust. An enthusiastic yes. What is this now? That reaction has a lot it do with the fact that I unveiled myself during our dating phase. Which is what most men get hear from that question like somehow I am about to make him wrong for something. With my husband it has a different meaning because of the way I set it up. All these things happen in the dating phase. I want you to think of dating as building the most beautiful home.
You have to start with the right foundation. You need a strong sturdy foundation. Dating, gives you that opportunity and the more you enjoy the building of this home, the more magical the home becomes. Dating is that building of that magical home.
That magical place where you can be you. And you can take the time to unveil yourself. Again let me recap troubleshooting your dating life. See you in the next episode.
Ready to build your new exciting online dating profile? Dating can be one of the most frustrating events in your life if you allow it to be. Start with your perception of dating. Just like you want that opportunity with them. Which is more about not having to use a condom more so than anything else That is not relationship exclusivity. This one really gets me. This includes things like having sex too soon. What is your sexual time frame?
Not his. Who are you as a woman dating? Take some time to think about that. Let me give you a little example of this: Inas my then-husband and I were splitting up and getting a divorce, I decided that what I have been doing romantically was not working and it was time to everything differently. And his. I still shared pieces of me. XO, Jenn P. Can I Change His Mind? Nice choice! You Are One Smart Lady. Ooohh La La. Excellent choice. Where should we send your class access to?What am i doing wrong dating
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